Chris Roberts

Is Sarahah The New Bullying App

bullySarahah, one of the newer messaging apps has become very very popular, but is it another bullying tool whose potential negative factors have been underestimated or ignored?  The idea of the app is quite simple.  Users can send and receive “constructive messages” or anonymous messages.   In Arabic, Sarahah means "honesty".  The designer of the said the app was meant for the workplace where people could offer their true thoughts on their co-workers with anonymity.  Well as anyone with 30secs of thought would realize, that is a recipe for disaster, rather than a tool of positivity.   Well this app has turned into another bullying tool that allows people to send and say things anonymously that they w...
Chris Roberts

The Reality of Bullying

bully1Bullying — Today’s Reality SAFE International™ has launched our new Bullying page on the website.  Here is an excerpt from it that provides some bullying statistics here in Canada.  The studies on bullying have provided much more insight over the years as to why bullies bully and the misconceptions many have had over the years in regards to the behaviour.  To see the full page, visit http://www.safeinternational.biz/classes/bullying.html Bullying is typically defined as physical intimidation or fighting, starting and/or spreading rumours, shaming publicly, insults through name calling, teasing, and other aggressive behaviour.  Despite an increase of public attention on the issue of bullying in recent years, it remai...
Chris Roberts

If It Were Only That Simple To Deal With Bullies

I am not sure it is this easy.  I found these suggestions on a website about how to deal with bullies. Suggestions for ignoring the bully: Walk away when the bully approaches you. Try and imagine that you’re walking away from a friend. This can be a way of making sure your body language (which you’re usually unaware of) doesn’t give away a sense of fear; Concentrate on something else. Try thinking about what you’ll do next weekend, counting to 100, or planning your homework; Have a saying or a statement that you can repeat in your head when the bully approaches you to block out a sense of fear. My Thoughts - What if you can't walk away.  Far too simplistic to say walk away! What if they chase you or what if you are blocked wi...
Chris Roberts

What Is The Problem With This Bullying Advice?

I found a website with more than one piece of advice on dealing with bullying that I find to be less than optimal.  The one tip I read was to, "Use visualization. Bullies can be pretty scary. Picturing that person looking silly might help to make them less problematic for you. For example, picture the bully’s head shrinking, or picture the bully in his or her underwear." I think it might be a little difficult to picture this while the bully is possibly beating on the victim or verbally abusing them.  To say to do something does not mean it can be done without some discussion or tips on how to do it.  Even then how does this cause the bully to change their behaviour? I think we might want to work on building confidence ...
Chris Roberts

I Have No Definite Answers Teaching Self Defense

I was thinking about some of the topics I teach and the reactions or questions I get to those topics.  One that might seem odd for a self defense instructor to say, but I totally believe, is a statement I make at the beginning of all my courses.  I say something along the lines of, "Today, I will not have any answers to any of your questions".  After the odd looks, lol, I will say, "I will offer you many many options, but I can't give any definite answers when it comes to self defense."  People have asked if me being a so-called "self defense expert" should require I have all the answers.  I ask people to bring up that question at the end of the seminar.  At the end I will generally remind them of the question ...

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