Violence Prevention & Self-Defence Training Blog

The SAFE International Self Defence Blog addresses Violence Prevention topics & self-defence for the women, schools, companies and families.

Richard Dimitri? Why Will Bullying Never Be Resolved?

I had this little idea that I decided to run past Richard Dimitri, who is fairly, or unfairly known for a concept in the self defense world called "The Shredder".  Virtually everyone I talk to, who asks about Rich, immediately gets to asking about "The Shredder", does "The Shredder" really work?  Shredder, Shredder, Shredder, Shredder.......! While it is an amazing self defense concept, it is so far removed from the many reasons why I am proud to call Richard a friend.  In my opinion, Rich's identity became synonymous with the Shredder, which is an injustice, as Rich is so much more than a self defense concept.  So, back to the idea I had for Rich.  I promised to ask Rich some questions he has never been asked in the countless interviews  he has done over the years. I also agreed I had no interest in censoring him, because that would be taking away from who Richard is.  So, the first question of the many I have presented to him is, "Why will bullying never be resolved?"   Take it away Rich!

The real hopeless victims of mental illness are to be found among those who appear to be most normal.

Many of them are normal because they are so well adjusted to our mode of existence, because their human voice has been silenced so early in their lives, that they do not even struggle or suffer or develop symptoms as the neurotic do.

They are normal not in what may be called the absolute sense of the word; they are normal only in relation to a profoundly abnormal society.

Their perfect adjustment to that abnormal society is a measure of their mental sickness.

These millions of abnormally normal people, living without fuss in a society to which, if they were fully human beings, they ought not to be adjusted.

~ Aldous Huxley

Fucking brilliantly spot on.

The ‘bullying problem’ along with rape and other such vile acts will never be resolved. These are nothing more than symptoms of unnatural, sick and morally anorexic societies.

Symptoms caused by every kind of segregation one can think of from races to families via all kinds of methods from the indoctrination of children to collective societal brainwashing. It is not an isolated problem either and it cannot be fixed on a collective, global level until we fix ourselves, our societies and the way humanity currently malfunctions as a collective.

Every societal system including all the present ones regardless what part of the world you live are brutally and beyond flawed not to mention corrupt to one degree or another. They are designed to control via divide and conquer and to enslave via money for power and profit; for if we are born in flaw and raised in fear, we forever remain in need.

With the inception of the proverbial dangling carrot and more recently repacked and sold as what has become known as ‘The American Dream”, humanity lost focus on everything, including empathy and real humane, family values for the pursuit of money. They only replaced the word ‘money’ with ‘happiness’.

“Capitalism is the gross domestic product of the poorest 48 nations being less than the wealth of the world's three richest people” ~ Ravenspyre

For starters, every ism to date including capitalism, failed. However, the minute capitalism, democracy and the like are criticized, the majority of people get their shit streaked panties all bunched up like the creases somehow causes such dysfunctional discomfort that they instantly begin tongue slapping you with examples of how much worst communism, Marxism, socialism and the like are.

Fascinating to hear people always revert back to what’s failed or to compare their shit to greater shit out there in order to make their shit look less shitty. What an interesting way to live life, or a shitty way really; a onetime affair no less. We are literally standing in our very own way to true human progress and evolution.

Lest we forget, poverty is manmade. There is a reason why humanity allows poverty and famine to exist. It is strictly to keep the working class in check, nothing more, and nothing less. Without the more miserable than ourselves to compare our miserable selves too, we would be too difficult, too hard to enslave and control.

You don’t like your job/work/government/laws/school/? Take a look at those who don’t have any of that or who’s systems are in your face corrupt and be thankful you ingrates! And people are thankful, and leave being told they should be happy for what they have as they seethe under their manufactured lives.

Nowhere near enough people know or even care that over 80% of the world’s population are living in, or on the poverty line while less than 20% of the world’s population are grossly over consuming over 80% of the world’s resources.

I mean other than those who  shudder about it on their way to the mall to buy Nike Air or IPod’s that child slave labor made of course, that doesn’t really count. Fuck those kids, I mean really, are we expected to pay more for our luxuries?!? Long as it’s not my kid, right?

Why don’t the majority care? Why are we allowing this as a collective while creating and regurgitating meaningless bullshit  terms like “human rights” and praying to a supposedly loving ‘god’?

I’ll tell you why. Because of the tiny limited comforts we’re allowed to have that others don’t and the morbid, lingering fear of losing them along with the vibrant promises that come with the proverbial continuous dangling carrot. More is after all, never enough.

There is no such thing as “human rights”. Let’s be honest, there are primarily and mainly only rights for those who have an abundance of money. Human rights are for those who can afford them. That is who “human rights” are reserved for in the broadest sense really. It should be called “Wealthiest’s rights”.

Don’t think that’s true? Someone rich n famous gets caught using/abusing drugs and they get to go to rehab, write a book and make even more money while you would spend anywhere between 4 to 15 years getting several of your orifices expanded in prison.

Sylvester Stallone got caught bringing in over 10 thousand dollars worth of illegal drugs to Australia and got fined with a slap on the wrist. Why don’t you try bringing in one hundred dollars worth of illegal narcotics over the Australian border and see what happens to you, especially if you’re not ‘white’.

You’re rich n famous; you can buy your way out of most anything. You’re working class and a societal nobody, an expendable, a number, a replaceable battery/slave producing for your owners; you do the time like the rest of the working class. Simple as that.

And you, me, we are all owned. By the banks, by the government, by the landlord, by the credit card companies, by our possessions, our bosses, cultures, religions, the law, you name it. We are not free. No one is. There is only the illusion of freedom and choice.

And they sell us that shit like it’s some kind of fucking privilege to be in debt and work your ass off while neglecting your health and family to “pay the bills”. We pay our government taxes for things the majority of us for one, don’t even have a single clue about and 2, would never in a million years condone, want or do.

And why the hell do we owe anyone anything for being born and surviving on this planet in the first place? How the fuck did that happen and how the fuck in this day and age, are we continuing to let it happen?

“The hard working man is to be looked up to! The working man is what makes this country go around!” You got all kinds of feel good, heart string pulling movies showing you just how great it is to be a Duralast fucking battery for our governments. Because in the end, that’s all we really are. Expendable batteries; some of us, rechargeable for our owners.

We work our asses off to pay rent and mortgages on homes we barely spend time in, to pay off taxes, electricity, water, gas, leases, parking spaces, food like products, phone, and sooner than we think, they’ll be taxing air, no one’s gonna bat an eye lash either, and the list goes on and on.

We go to war, we get maimed, crippled or killed, we murder other people we’ve never even met or have a clue about other than what we’ve been totally brainwashed to believe by the box of lies ever so strategically placed in almost every room of every household of the ‘working class” telling us what to think, buy, eat, drink, wear, vote, love, hate, drive, accessorize, weigh, look, feel and do.

Do you realize we were born on this planet just like every other individual and specie on earth yet our very survival literally depends on giving a piece of paper we’ve made more real and more powerful than our other imaginary friend in the sky “god”?

Money. What most sacrifice everything for, including family. The core root of where a nurturing and empathetic environment is used to raise a child. 2 Parents that love each other regardless of sex, that have time for each other and to raise and educate their child. Instead, we have… well, what we have.

We’ve arguably been around for roughly 2 to 3 hundred thousand years and the corrupt monetary system is the best we’ve come up with? We’ve literally created world systems that reward and promote greed, apathy, over consumption, jealousy, the coveting for things we don’t even fundamentally need while others suffer and we turn a blind eye.

We’ve created a system called “capitalism” derived from the word to “capitalize” – to take advantage of, to profit from, to derive benefit from at any and all cost, our families, our health, our well beings.

We trade the hours of our lives to work at jobs most hate, dislike or as they so politically correctly fall over themselves to put it these days “It pays the bills”. It pays the fucking bills?

This is what life has been reduced too for the working class worldwide chasing the American dream forced through both media and wars over the last 200+ years which we refer to as “democracy and freedom”.

Think about your life for a minute…. Love or hate your job, whether you own your own business or not; without it, without selling off hours of your life to, or for someone else; you cannot optimally survive on this planet you didn’t even ask to be born on supposedly “free”.

For those of you with young children, how many times have you shunned them because you had to work or were too tired or stressed or consumed or busy or preoccupied with work or looking for work or making ends meet? How many afternoons, mornings or events gone by you couldn’t make or be with them for but hey, at least the babysitter/daycare center was there with YOUR CHILD.

Working at the capacity and for the reasons we do now is something we convince ourselves we’re doing for our children when all they would rather have over anything else in the world is an afternoon with your undivided attention.

And for the older parents of children who are all grown up, how nice would it be to see them more often, spend more quality time of our already precious, limited time here? How nice would it be if they weren’t so busy with work that they couldn’t make your birthdays/retirement parties or other missed occasions that never come back again?

How many regrets on or next to death beds have people had over wishing they had spent more time with their loved ones. Do we learn from any of this? Apparently not because the majority of businesses worldwide in the last 75 years alone went from open for business 5 days a week to 6-7 days a week. 8 hour days have turned into 12 and even 24 hours open for business days, some by choiceless choice, some by laws depending where.

The working class today works on average 45 to 50+ weeks per year to “pay the bills”. Some work 2 to 3 jobs to “pay the bills”. We have created entire systems where we spend most of our time slaving to purchase shit we don’t need to impress people who don’t care, to give ourselves some kind of manufactured validation and we’ve convinced ourselves it is a source of happiness and to be proud of that because THAT is somehow better than anything else we’ve ever accomplished before.

In direct correlation to these unadulterated happy lives we’ve created for ourselves in these great democratic and capitalistic societies, we seem to have an excessive urge for drugs (legal & illegal) and alcohol and all kinds of varying vices from porn to gambling to compulsive eating etc. as methods of escapes or ‘dealing’. Some of these methods of dealing lead to domestic abuse, rape and all kinds of social violence.

Escapes from what exactly if we’ve got such wonderful thriving societies and great living conditions where we can freely, un-oppressively and fully express ourselves without fear of judgments, loss, imprisonment, ridicule, bullying, out-casting or death?

Why the need to get hammered every weekend? Anti-depressants? Pharmaceutical companies are one of the top billion dollar worldwide industries for a fucking reason no? Cause you’re all so fucking happy in your pretend lives?!?

Why the need for ‘vacations’? The very term vacation suggests an escape from something undesirable, and if life is so fucking great….. Then why the constant need for escape or methods of ‘dealing’ any means possible?

Ever wonder what everyone is always trying to escape from exactly?

We’re given one life and one life only and the majority of our species sells it off and spends the rest of it trying to escape it and relinquishes and wastes it with such fervor and passion, blindly and sheepishly listening to those who put us there. Then we wonder why fucking teen suicide and bullying and the like are rising? What kind of parents are our societies making and what kind of children are they raising in turn?

The circle is more than vicious, it’s viciously stupid and asinine and we’ve been so conditionally, literally dumbed down to accept it that the vast majority can’t even fuckin see it nor even fathom something different. The program is fucking powerful.

Every action has a reaction. Everything has a cause and effect.  If someone somewhere is indeed capitalizing, then someone, somewhere else, in direct cause and effect of this, must also be losing, not profiting and not benefitting due to another party, well… “Capitalizing”. And the proof is indeed in the proverbial pudding isn’t it?

“The laws of capitalism, which are blind and are invisible to ordinary people, act upon the individual without he or she being aware of it. One sees only the vastness of a seemingly infinite horizon ahead. That is how it is painted by capitalist propagandists who purport to draw a lesson from the example of Rockefeller — whether or not it is true — about the possibilities of individual success. The amount of poverty and suffering required for a Rockefeller to emerge, and the amount of depravity entailed in the accumulation of a fortune of such magnitude, are left out of the picture, and it is not always possible for the popular forces to expose this clearly ... It is a contest among wolves. One can win only at the cost of the failure of others." ~ Che Guevara

Now shit yourself cause I quoted Che Guevara…. It’s just a messenger fuckwit, get over it, it doesn’t make the message any less true. “Don’t concentrate on the finger or you will miss all that heavenly glory.” – Bruce Lee

“I don’t want a nation of thinkers; I want a nation of workers.” ~ J.D. Rockefeller (Attributed by Jim Marrs in the William Lewis film One Nation Under Siege (2008)

Fucking prick succeeded a thousand times over.

Here’s a prime example of capitalism at work. According to the United States Environmental Protection Agency, the amount of food wasted in the United States alone is staggering. Worldwide it’s even worst. In 2010, more than 34 million tons of food waste was generated, more than any other material category but paper.

Food waste accounted for almost 14% of the total municipal solid waste stream, less than three percent of which was recovered and recycled in 2010. The rest —33 million tons— was thrown away, making food waste the single largest component of MSW reaching landfills and incinerators while people worldwide go hungry.

“The price good men pay for their indifference to public affairs is to be ruled by evil men.” ~ Plato

“(In the USA) without a permit and/or fee paid to a tyrannical Government bureaucracy, it is now illegal to feed the homeless. Illegal to pass out water bottles in park on a hot day, Illegal to give poor kids sack lunches on their way to school, illegal for kids to set up lemonade stands, illegal to bake cookies/cakes (pastries) and sell them for non-profit. Illegal to give out free coffee in a tobacco shop, Illegal to build a small house of worship on your own property, Illegal to grow a garden in your front yard, Illegal to cultivate or use marijuana (a naturally occurring weed) in your own home or on your own property.

And it's becoming virtually illegal to post anything to your private Facebook page that specifically calls out government actions or counters their propaganda.  I "fought for freedom" in Iraq, and all I got was this stupid PTSD from being used as a pawn. Then I came home to find out my own DHS: 1.) thinks I'm a terrorist and 2.) is targeting veterans for arrest and exploitation. ~ Former US Soldier

While 80% of humanity lives in poverty, the first world working class ‘to pay the bills’ and those that control them like sheep don’t give a rats ass other than perhaps the 33 dollar check they don’t even have to write because it is automatically withdrawn from their bank accounts to supposedly provide for an impoverished third world child 99.9% of them will never even meet. All this so they can sleep a little better at night or impress their dinner guests with their incredible generosity: “You know John, I support a child in Zimbabwe…”

Comedian Doug Stanhope said it best. We walk over our homeless in our cities to go to the post office to drop our check in the mail for the starving African child.

35 million people in the US are hungry and don’t know where their next meal is coming from and 13 million of them are children. If another country were doing this to our children, we’d be at war.” ~ Actor Jeff Bridges

Um, you are at war Jeff…. Regardless of when this is being read, the chances are… you’re at war brother.

The plain reality is, if you want to help that child starving across the globe, stop over consuming water, wasting food, purchasing the diamonds that had most of their parents killed in the first place or the latest fucking techno gadget child slave labor made…. How about that for a fucking start?

"The difference between a democracy and a dictatorship is that in a democracy you vote first and take orders later; in a dictatorship you don't have to waste your time voting" ~ Charles Bukowski

Criticize capitalism and you’re automatically labeled by the fearful, unimaginative, tiny minded as an automatic socialist or communist and the like. Why must we go back to communism or socialism or any ‘isms’ for that matter?  Why can’t we look forward? Why can’t we try something entirely different? Something we’ve never tried or done before? Get this; what if instead of catering to the human ego, we catered to our other side, our empathetic side? After all, human beings have 2 sides; we’ve only always catered to 1.

 “Achieving freedom is our birth right, brilliantly disguised as impossible by those in power. People just need to WAKE UP from their social hypnotic trance, start by unplugging the TV/Radio. Don't believe anything that has commercials in between. Forget the status quo, commune with nature and help others.” ~ Anonymous

We’re not free. The only people truly free are the ones who govern those who govern us. Our owners. The ones that profit from sending us and our children to war. The ones that have us working 40 to 80 hour weeks away from our families just to make ends meet while making them rich. The ones that sell us all kinds of bullshit that has been proven time and again to be deceptions and lies.

Those that make the laws but are not bound by them. Those that sell us fairy tales of deities, angels and demons to divide, conquer and control us with greater ease. Those who segregate and separate the collective with utter man made nonsense such as religion, politics, culture, patriotism, sport teams, borders and flags. Those that use our differences against us like skin colors, races, nationalities etc. Everything from birth till death designed to segregate, separate and causes to compete against. Much easier to control masses that way.

Divide and conquer; one of war’s greatest strategies. We’re still collectively too proud and blind to admit we’ve been fucking had on such a monumental level, it’s unbelievable. Literally. The majority of you reading this are probably screaming “BULLSHIT!” by now.

“Together we stand, divided we fall.” ~ Pink Floyd. And fall hard we have. Time to get up and rise above this pathetic level of mediocrity we’ve droolingly accepted in our televised and consumerized trances.

 “Become the change you want to see in the world” ~ Gandhi

So  many people quote this particular Gandhi quote and yet the very things people bitch, whine and complain about are the very things they perpetually perpetrate daily and have complete control over both individually and as a collective.

How haven’t we come to understand what every prophet, guru, prominent religious figures, spiritualists, activists, peace keepers, positive world changers and the like from Jesus Christ to John Lennon, from Martin Luther King Jr. to Gandhi, from Plato and Socrates to Lady Diana and the Buddha, from the Dalai Lama to Mandela and everyone in between said about the strength of a collective, unified and peaceful love? A greater, collective human consciousness; of course, we imprisoned and/or murdered most of them.

Matter; being nothing more than energy vibrating in differing frequencies, human beings being no different,  when we radiate love, we are actually resonating/vibrating at much higher frequencies proven to enhance everything from health to well being and all that follows by proxy.

Through this, we elevate to higher consciousness, we actually enhance our own personal and collective evolution. These are scientifically proven facts, components of every major religion and spiritual development and yet the people we put in power, those who own, govern and lead us hold nothing of the virtues of either peace or love. Not a single, solitary thing, quite the opposite. Why people feel the need to be fucking lead to begin with is absurd to me anyway. Own your goddamn lives already.

No society truly caters to our empathetic side. None. Closest were the Buddhists I suppose but then they’re out slaughtering Muslims today by the thousands and in the most atrocious of ways these peace loving, karmic people. We’ve even managed to push the fucking Buddhists to mass slaughter, torture and murder, good going humanity. And we think we can get rid of bullying? Can I type ROTFLMFAO in an article? Yes. I can. It’s my fucking article. ROTFLMFAO!!!!

Contrarily, everything directly caters to our egos, our selfishness and our pride. Everything. The day humanity begins to cater to its higher self, to the flip side of its ego and begins to live freely and fully accountable; the day we actually own our lives in a collective, peaceful harmony is the day the vile symptoms of bullying, rape, theft and the like will greatly diminish and become things of rarity.

Until then, bullying and the rest of the violent symptoms promoted by the very societal conditions we’ve created will go on. Self defense against a bully only works in that particular and isolated incident; the bully doesn’t automatically become a saint and honorary member of society once stood up too, no, the bully simply moves on to find another yet weaker target and becomes more careful and enraged and someone else’s problem and the symptoms progressively get worst. This is something that has to be out-birthed at its core root and that root is our ego catering societies.

“Our problems come from our acceptance of this filthy, rotten system.” ~ Dorothy Day

Do some shit.


Look For Verbal & Physical Cues In Self Defense
Story of Surviving Sexual Assault Part 1


No comments made yet. Be the first to submit a comment
Already Registered? Login Here
Sunday, 08 December 2019
Image is not available

Parent's Guide

When Your Child Leaves Home for College


Feel unSAFE ?

We Can Help You

Contact Us